11 Responses to “What does it take to sustain a relationship?”

1. Edrei, on June 27th, 2004 at 1516H Said:

   It’s purpose. Just like life itself, love cannot exist or is not worth existing if there is no purpose.

   Most people say that if you love someone there is no why to it. But personally I don’t think this is it. Love is never enough. Love binds a relatioship yes…but by itself cannot sustain it unless the relatioship has purpose.

   To me…its the fact that your other half can give you something you yourself can never have. Something only through both of you together you can have and accomplish. That is a purpose…at least to me.

2. Mei, on June 27th, 2004 at 1544H Said:

   It’s all those things and even more. But Ed summed it up perfectly. If the relationship has no purpose and the two people in it do not find something that benefits one another, then loving is sometimes more harmful than beneficial. Love is never enough…even though it’s important.

3. Ash.ox, on June 27th, 2004 at 1556H Said:

   Ah love.

   A desirable component, but also an iffy one.
   It’s a little bit of everything plus a little effort, I guess.

   But then again what do I know? I’m not even attached.

4. jikon, on June 28th, 2004 at 0033H Said:

   you guys sure know how to take romance out of life…

5. karina, on June 28th, 2004 at 1211H Said:

   >yes

   >yes

   >not necessarily

   >it definitely helps - though it need not necessarily be the ’same’ sense of humour. A ‘complementary’ one would work as well.

   >not necessary - look at our parents (mine at least). they drive each other mad when it comes to travel habits. but hey, 38 years and counting.

   >most definitely

   >YES

   >yes, and yes (I can personally vouch for this one)

   >and yes. And sometimes loves last or don’t last, just because.

6. Edrei, on June 28th, 2004 at 1911H Said:

   It’s not taking out romance. On the contrary…at least I know when I’m in my relationship…I can truly say it’s forever. Even if love dies…I can always go back to the reasons in which love bloomed…the purpose and reason of why we fell in love..

   What is love?

   It’s just a word.

   It’s only what you do that gives meaning to that word. That…is what romance is.

7. Zsarina, on June 28th, 2004 at 2252H Said:

   Jikon: I love the lyrics snippet that you posted…and I say a big YES to that.

8. glinar, on June 29th, 2004 at 0915H Said:

   love = sacrifice + all the above

9. Cassiel, on June 29th, 2004 at 1154H Said:

   Love is overrated, and I’m not speaking cynically even though that’s how it sounds.

   Love is like chili on chicken rice. You can still eat it, though, it just doesnt taste as good as it could be. When I was younger I couldnt take chili and I loved chicken rice. Now I cant imagine what it would taste like without chili.

   Love is not the be all and end all of life. While it makes things so much better, I know many who have gone through life without it. All it does is diminish the quality of your life. Many people choose to go through life without it because of the flip-side of love which, contrary to popular belief, can happen AS easily as love itself. Love can go sour, can turn into obsession, fade into mere comfort, or turn to hate.

   Love is great if you have it, but you can sustain a relationship without it.

10. veritas, on June 29th, 2004 at 1240H Said:

    commitment

11. jikon, on June 29th, 2004 at 1502H Said:

    Edrei: you’re such a romantic!

    Zsarina: have you heard the version of that song sung by Luther Vandross? I melt…

    Cassiel: ouch!

    Veritas: hmmm…. even through all the shit and pain?

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