come out! come out! you closet queens
Frankly, I’m getting sick and tired of closet queens who can’t get enough of gay sex but suffer from insecurities that result in behaviour that I frankly find to be contemptuous of homosexuals.
Their behaviour is not ironic, it is rude and an insult.
I need to rant.
(This is an unintended extension of this earlier rant.)
NOTE: This post contains material that some readers might consider crude and offensive. You have been forewarned.
What the fuck is the fascination with using “code” words like PLU or bf or whatever else is currency at the moment? Talking to a closet queen is like talking to a secret agent from a foreign country in a foreign language using not words but grunts.
The term “People Like Us” or “PLU” really gets to me - people like us what? People like us who are five feet tall? Or people like us who speak Manglish? Or people like us who are hiding behind double-locked doors foreswearing any carnal desires? The worst is when they use the acronym instead of saying the words out loud. Honestly! Homosexuals are as varied as heterosexuals. Please don’t lump me with another individual purely on the basis of my sexual preference. And most certainly don’t lump me with practising homosexuals who refuse to publicly acknowledge their activities.
The other acronym I’ve started to hear being brandished about is “b.f.” - that’s right, not even a word, just two alphabets. “b.f.” = boyfriend. Now, I can well understand the process of redefining social relations and behaviour that are supposedly “unique” to homosexuals, and one might argue, perhaps in a long academic tract, that to reject using “traditional” words and terms is part of that process, and that’s why words like “partner” have become increasingly in use. But to wield acronyms to describe someone who presumably is of high personal importance is fucking ridiculous! And utterly disrepectful of that fella’ who puts out for you. It doesn’t even economise on the number of syllables you have to utter! For God’s sake, if you have a bloody fucking boyfriend hidden under the sheets in your boudoir at the back of the house - say so clearly! There’s no need to hide behind acronyms.
Finally, here’s a lesson in vocabulary. Allow me to explain the difference between “discrete” and “hypocritical“.
If you tell the world you like to suck cock but you do it privately in your own home and not “kiss and tell”, that’s called being discrete.
If you like dicks but hide your sexuality while publicly decrying that “only faggots suck cock” - that’s called being hypocritical.
Discretion is generally an appreciated trait. Hypocrisy is not.
Darlings, if you’re going to partake in the fruit, please do not legitimise the discrimination and the oppression however indirectly. If you cannot be honest with others, at least be honest with yourself and refrain from doing something that you psychologically find so abhorrent that you can’t comfortably accept as part of your being. If you’ve got something to hide, or you must be covert about your behaviour, perhaps you’re not ready to grow up and have gay sex.
Posted on November 19th, 2004 by jl
Filed under: Life's Gay
Glad to see you’re “back”! heheh…
Hi Jikon. I admire your candidness. And yes, I’m a great supporter of being honest and open about our creeds and beliefs.
I enjoy your blog a lot. And you seem very interesting indeed. What are the other four languages that you speak?
I thought it was hip to be gay nowadays…. what??? no??? oh….. only in the NY, Australia and certain parts of Europe… sighh….
Hear hear Jikon! I really don’t like the PLU thing either. It seems pretty big with lesbians to only hang around PLT (People Like Themselves) and not have PNLU friends.
Damn. PLU? I’ve been seeing that plastered over classifieds all over the net. Have to agree withcha - don’t piss in the drinking fountain and spoil the fun for everyone else.
That’s just wrong.
Tee hee.
hmm… what is Mr Ash doing thrawling the gay classifieds..???
Scotty: I wasn’t aware that lessies use PLT… shows how insular I am!
Marita: thanks for the vote of confidence.
ah chew: you crack me up sometimes!
Jordan: I just can’t imagine you giggling…
move to san francisco, gay capital of the world
Nice to see that Jikon is in top form again but, I must point out the typo error. The word should read “discreet”, not “discrete”.
I agree with Mike X’s post in the earlier rant that there separate trains of thoughts at work here and one must deal with them one at a time, lest we be confused by their apparent similarity.
There was a heated debate when I came out quite some (a long) time ago, on whether the future of gay lib (quaint idea, now) would be through assimilation or confrontation. That sort of died out due to more pressing issues ergo the AIDS epidemic, gay marriages and et al.Perhaps if we addressed that, maybe we have advanced somewhere.
Personally, bastards will remain bastards whatever they are called and fiddling with the semantics can get shallow after a while, so beware. Call a spade, a spade and the world would be so much saner but, that’s a tall order don’t you think?
Hey… I’ve dealt with lots of closet queens. They’ll knock down anything remotely gay, saying that it is wrong or queer.
Just last night this one guy I was dating called Orlando Bloom and Colin Farrell faggots and he said it with venomous contempt. I had to refrain myself from saying anything as I needed a ride home but I was itching to say “Dude, don’t call them faggots like it’s a bad thing when you used to suck my cock and let me ride your ass till the cows come home!”
The nerve!
Jikon,
You don’t seem to realise, that the reason why the gay population in this reqion tend to have these “codes” like they’re afraid of being open is simply just that. You may be out and proud and good for you. BUT there are who aren’t. Not because they don’t want to but hello jikon, DO YOU KNOW WHICH COUNTRY YOU’RE LIVING IN? It’s very idealistic of you to say “hey, we all should just accept one another. A cock is a cock”. But honestly, not everyone can be open about it. Some even get discriminated against! Isnt that shocking to know Jikon? We are changing somewhat but it will take time I think. A very long time.
Those codes are just there for a reason. Not a good one at most but there are reasons why the codes are invented in the first place.
And with you being all high and mighty about your openess isnt helping much to those who are still trying to cope with it. Again, it will be ideal if all can just get along but it doesn’t work that way here.
Fucking wake up.
bee,
i might agree with you to a certain (limited) extent, but i am sure you would also agree with me that if we continue to play by “their” rules, the rules would never change. we have to do our part in affecting that change. by staying in the closet, conforming and adhering to these rules, we are implicitly legitimating and condoning the social norms.
i’d agree with you that it is, again to a limited extent, a chicken and egg situation, but i think history has clearly shown us that social change does not come by sitting quietly and staying in the closet. not for women, not for blacks, not for any minority group - or even the majority blacks in South Africa.
so yes. fucking wake up - and claim your “rightful” place on earth.
of course, if you want to forego your “right”, then that too, is a right you can exercise. but i’d rather you weren’t a hypocrite in the process.
Yeah I agree- you can’t simultaneously prevent and prepare for war you cannot simutaneously be gay and straight you can’t be gay and catholic cause god doesn’t make mistakes in the cathoilic church so someone is lying here. What is straight acting- I don’t have any straight friends that act straight- heterosexuals simply love women and what do lesbians have in common with gay men? can they just go away and find thier own world.
Let people do what they want to do. If gays dont wanna be openly gay then who are you to tell them they have to be. If i was gay i dont think id want my friends, family and the whole world to know i enjoyed fucking men. The thought has put me off my lunch. I am not saying i agree iwth gays but i think they dont have a chioce who would choose to be a fag? excuse to french