thinking about sex
I think I “intellectualise” sex far too much. I would be in the middle of a presumably passionate kiss or some very complicated body manoeuvre when all of a sudden I’d find myself completely “disembodied” from the whole “process” and thinking how stupid it all looked with all these many limbs grappling at each other. Or how silly it is to kiss and nibble behind the ears. Or how cliche it is to find a slim taut Asian sitting atop a big white man while he goes on and on about how “nice” it all was… and then I’d quickly sweep it out of my mind and throw myself back into the moment!
But there really are serious issues about the sexual act to consider. For instance, do you stay silent throughout the whole experience or do you emit suggestive groans and/or grunts to pass positive judgement and encourage a particular act that’s being done to you? Or do you go further and actually voice complimentary statements in the middle of the sexual activity, e.g. “I really like what you’re doing” or “You are so good at that”…??!! Because really, in sex, you never know quite what you should do and it’s never certain what would be perceived as “appropriate” behaviour by the other party (parties?)…
The other thing that’s got me going recently is whether to believe someone when he makes statements in the throe of passion. For instance, can you trust a man to be honest with you when he says you give good blow-jobs…?? I mean, of course he would say that - he’s about to bloody come and it wouldn’t have mattered if you had good technique as long as you had a receptable for his imminent ejaculation! But the quandary arises when two different persons make similar statements on two different and independent occassions, do you then believe because the second statement can only affirm the truth?
Sex is just such an awkward activity. Sex is not “sex” (at least not to me) unless it’s done with at least one other person. It is precisely the presence of this other (these others??) that makes sex so awkward.
Or maybe it’s because I think too much that makes it all so awkward…
Posted on March 3rd, 2005 by jl
Filed under: Life's gay!
Oh look, a sex-related post, and Mike reappears as if by magic?!….
…to say that if someone says they love you whilst in the throes of it all then that should of course be taken with a pinch (or two, or three) of salt…
… if, as you mention, it’s to complement your oral skills then, as they say, the proof of the pudding is in the eating, is it not? (and yes, this is another salty experience!)
Enjoy Sydney (Sidney?) and try not to think… at all?!
Mike x
Sydney is marvellous… and I hope Jonathan would be too though I suspect I really will have to NOT think about it at all if it is to be marvellous…!
Jikon!! big white man??? LoL…