choice
A & B are both about the same age.
A is a corporate lawyer and a partner in a law firm. B is a technician in a TV station.
A dresses in the style “of the moment”. B’s dressing is alright but a little dated.
A drives a BMW (don’t ask me what series, I didn’t pay attention). B drives a really old Ford.
A owns and lives in a two-storey terrace house behind a main street in a very trendy neighbourhood. B is renting a room that’s barely big enough to fit a double bed.
A’s home is furnished in a style that’s a cross between *wallpaper and Vogue Living magazines - the side-effects of a single gay man with too much disposable income. B only has a room - it’s hard to talk about furnishing!
A is comfortably out but B could be accused of being a homophobic gay man.
A and I get along alright but there are no sparks. But B and I… there are plenty of sparks, as well as friction and frustration.
Who would you choose?
Posted on July 27th, 2006 by jl
Filed under: Life's gay!, love
me? i’d go for a. i know what you’re thinking, no it’s not that. i’m tired of passion that in the end burns my heart and soul out. i want someone who’s THERE. A sounds sane. B will give you angina.
Depends on what you’re looking for - Long vs short term, and what’s important to you - material trappings vs. emotional satisfaction.
Long term - B over A, but there needs to be a further to step to decide whether or not the friction/frustration is manageable.
Short term - A over B cos luxury/comfort and aesthetics make things way more pleasurable.
The problem with choosing A, I suspect, is that should C (who posses all the A-type trappings and more than a little of B’s qualities) come along, A is toast.
I don’t believe in “I’ll learn to love him”.
I have a friend who went thru a similar choice. Exhibit A - a fast talking banker with oodles of charm and family money but gets occasionally gets violent with her and she forgets him the moment he’s out of sight.
Exhibit B - Rough and tumble cowboy (literally. He herded the Aus-imported cows that get slaughtered here for our supermarket shelves) who excited her but who had no clue that the girl wearing a Dior-emblazoned top, is not trying to tell us her name. He was uncouth, unpolished and had dirty nails.
She chose B over A, then went back to A because A was more up to “standards” (even thought she had to convince herself that she loves him) but ended up marrying C. C was more presentable than B and at least had a very high-flying corporate job (ie at least some of A’s desirable traits).
The danger is not in either of A’s or B’s dependability. It’s the little whispers in your heart that is likelier to be the problem.
spot: i think you’ve hit the nail on its head…
Just catching up here… and I agree, Spot is “spot on”!