questions…
Questions I would like to run by potential boyfriends, organised according to loose categories but in no particular order:
GAY-NESS
- Are you a top/bottom/versatile or do you not do anal-sex?
- Are you out? How out are you? Do your parents know?
- Are you comfortable holding hangs/cuddling/kissing in public?
RELATIONSHIP
- Have you ever been in a relationship before? How many? How long was the longest?
- What’s your view on monogamy?
- What’s your view on open-relationships?
- What sort of a relationship do you want?
- What sort of a partner are you looking for?
- What’s your view on marriage/long-term relationship?
and finally…
- Why choose me?Â
Girlfriends… trust me. You all have it so much easier!
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I’ve just finished reading Timothy Conigrave’s “Holding the Man” for the second time (I first read it about 5 or 6 years ago). It reminded me far too much, in essence but not in fact, of my now-ended relationship with A. And it reminded of all the risks one is exposed to when one loves openly, selflessly and totally - I am both frightened of and attracted to it all at the same time, like a fly to fire…
I cried (again!) towards the end of the book - it is a beautiful… nay, gorgeous love story.Â
Love is a double-edged sword.
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I wished I was 17 and falling in love for the first time again with all the naivety and ignorance of not just life but also the gay world and its dynamics…
Posted on November 18th, 2006 by jl
Filed under: Life's gay!
Good luck in finding someone, male or female (though I admit the chances are higher for women) who’s put enough thought into self-awareness to answer the questions under the ‘relationship’ category.
I read Holding The Man 10 years ago and remember my heart breaking throughout the book and being totally shattered at the last bit. Two years later I discovered Stone Butch Blues and cried through that as well.
These books made me feel less alone.
Life is a double-edged sword.
hey spot! nice to see you back!
Of all places, i found a copy of “Stone Butch Blues” in the uni library! will borrow it - thanks for the tip!
SMILE
“Girlfriends… trust me. You all have it so much easier!”
I’m not so sure that lesbians do, or do they?!
Very thorough, er, probing you have there, I would expect nothing less?!?