How do you recognise it, if it’s love? And how do you know if love has come to you?

Is it love when:

• he calls you at least once a day;
• he makes me laugh;
• we miss being with each other physically every single day;
• he sends a text saying “Hey, just in case u aren’t intelligent enough to work this out … I LOVE U”;
• during a Skype video-conversation, he puts the microphone against the speakers and plays a song from the computer while we both look at each other, the song being “Rainbow Connections” rendered by karen Carpenter; or
• he sends me a text saying “Love u xoxox” right after a one hour long Skype video-chat?

Is it love if he is able to list down the qualities that he really likes about me? Or when he sees me as the bright spot in his life? Is it love when I’m very comfortable with him and we attain a certain level of intimacy with each other? Is it love when we both want the same things in life and are happy to give it a go together?

Or is it too early to be speaking of love? Perhaps, as my friend MD says, we use the word “love” early on because there isn’t a word that accurately describes the state we’re in - its more than just lust - it is much more rounded - but it is not quite yet love. It’s hard to think that “true” love, acceptance and mutual understanding will happen all that quickly but then what we have now is more than just physical attraction and simple friendship. As MD says, maybe we need a new word to bridge the gap - one that says less than love, but more than like.

Lovike? Likove?

Posted on February 23rd, 2006 by jl
Filed under: love